It's Mental Health Awareness week this week, and it feels like about time. My old sadness has recently popped in for a flying visit again so I thought I'd share with you what I have found helps:
- the more I judge myself and tell myself off for being sad, the worse I feel. Allowing myself some time to cry (if I need to) helps the sadness to pass much faster than telling myself I shouldn't be sad.
- screens don't particularly help.
- the right friends DO help.
- GETTING OUT OF THE HOUSE, bed time stories with my nephew, going for a run, dancing to cheesy 90s pop, doing work that I enjoy and am good at, helping someone - all that fills me up nicely and helps much more than lots of analysing and asking why. (Better to do the analysing from a happier place IF it's needed at all.)
- the past is over. The past is full of dead things, whether that is people who are no longer with us, old jobs, old ways of life, our old body or hair, relationships, even the relationships we are in now that USED to be different. Those things are in the past but WE are here in the now. Going back for a while can be useful, but spending too long in the past ALWAYS makes me sad. Better to ask: 'What is here now?' (this helps with better acting too...)
- things change, they always change. Stay open to happiness, it might surprise you and pop up when you least expect it.
- any more tips you would like to add??? There's always room for improvement with me.
Sadness aside, I had two lovely massages today with two really open and generous clients and I'm looking forward to 3 more tomorrow.
Take care of yourselves everyone.
With extra love,
Ruth Nadia
ps. The photo was from a gorgeous walk I did with a gorgeous friend. Good friends make everything better.